I never liked the stereotype of “homophobes are just closeted gays” because (1) people can just be hateful without any deeper reason, (2) it somehow blames homophobia out of all things on gay people themselves and (3) it provides plenty of opportunity for people to be homophobic to homophobes in the name of gay rights.

It’s kind of like those oh-so hilarious pictures of Putin and Trump in make-up, kissing. The entire joke is “oh imagine if they were gay, how emasculating and humiliating!” This line of thinking always struck me as homophobic.

Like sure, it happens often, but by far not always, and it’s harmful to imply that’s all there is to homophobia.